I once set up a PM thread for this with Members here on the forum and it went well I guess. Glad to see you posted this. One thing I'd like to mention for the OP Twin, anyone replying should act dead serious and not be insensitive to some people's problems. Thank you.
Now, about your job, to be honest there's not much I can do to help IRL. All I can say is that you always have the choice to look for jobs online. Decent paying ones. Start from the bottom, then keep learning more and moving up. As a last resort I'd personally join the Military, some people may not be like that though. So check websites for decent paying jobs, or even better-try find some contracts. Contracts may not always last long, but pay high amounts and you can learn a lot from them.
Now about girls. When there's a girl I really like, I can get insanely attracted to her. It depends on who it is. I feel like I want to do everything for that one girl and I spend ages thinking about her. If there's one thing I've learnt, it's that you come before the girl. Trust me when I say this. Focus on yourself and your health first before you focus on the girl. You and your life is more important. Don't go out of your way for her, no matter how much you want to please her, especially if you're broke. Make sure you are good and everything before dedicating time and money to a girl. You are more important. She's probably living a broke-free life. If you're broke, you need to get yourself sorted out first. Make sure you're always staying fit and healthy and doing the things you want to do. Don't let her change your life in any way unless it's a positive way. I used to think it was all about the girl and what ever she wanted, but I was wrong. What if the girl never even liked me? I'm not going to sit heart-broken because of a girl. Now don't be mislead by thinking I'm saying "Don't care about the girl.", I'm saying that you should take care of yourself first.
So learn things, get money, stay healthy, and stay happy. If not happy, then at least be positive. Always think right and don't let the girl distract you. If the girl likes you then that's great and I'm happy for you, but sometimes it's about you and your health-not the girl. What ever you do, don't drink or smoke. It won't do any better. Might sound like I'm going off-topic, but these things happen. Anyway, one more thing: Stay strong.