Popular Post MCPO Mayh3m Posted March 17, 2012 Popular Post Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 Lately there have been an outbreak of arguments over the shoutbox between many different people. Lets be honest here, the first thing someone sees when they find this site, (besides the banner) is the shoutbox. The shoutbox has been referenced as the heartbeat of the forum, but if there is always arguing and negativity in the shoutbox, what kind of heart is that showing to our fellow members, to the guests that walk in and are considering joining, to the moderators who work their butts off to make this a pleasant place for people to come and enjoy themselves? It shows ignorance. It shows lack of respect. It shows lack of maturity. Lack of integrity. When people visit this site and want to join, and they see an argument in the shoutbox, I guarantee the last thing they want to do is join. There are many members of various ages on this forum, of various beliefs, and backgrounds. Why all the hate, why all the frustration, why the intolerance of those around you? What gives? If someone says something they didn't mean, don't go on and on about how they said something negative about you, or a friend or something you believe in. If they said they didn't mean it and apologized, ACCEPT it and DROP it! There is no need going on and on babbling away about something that could have been settled 20min-1hour before. When you constantly provoke someone it shows lack of character, lack of maturity and lack of respect to your fellow members. Sure, whatever the person said could be harsh, but people say things without thinking, I know I have done that many of times... but I correct myself and apologize. If someone tries to throw it back in my face I drop the subject. It is not worth getting your underpants tied in a knot over. Look, I don't know your background, nor do I know what you believe or what you have been through recently, but what I do know is that if you are having issues, check them at the door before you come in here. This place is meant to be enjoyable for EVERY kind of Halo fan. Keep in mind that there are other people here besides yourself. It is not all about you. Keep this in mind please: If someone says sorry, forgive them. Forgiveness is one of the greatest things you can do. It can be hard, but is so worth it in the end. If you have said something you didn't mean to, correct yourself in a positive manner. Tell the person you are sorry and ask them to forgive you. If they don't forgive you, then that is their problem. You did what was right. If you settled something with someone, DON'T bring it back up! Don't shove it back in the others face, that is rather disrespectful. Let it go. When someone upsets you, don't go do something brash and spontaneous right away, let your feelings settle and see if the other person really meant what they said. Guys, I am seriously tired of seeing a fight or argument break out in the chatbox every time I come to this forum. Please, I am asking, please.. make a difference. -Mayh3m Let me ask this question: What are we, that includes all of us including you, what are we going to do about it? 14 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Archangel Tyrael Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 I am tired of it too, it fustrates me so. I have gotten into some arguments, and have accepted their apologies, but some people i think need to be banned from shoutbox for awhile..because they do not mean their "Apologies" if they start another argument 20 mins later, and harrass people very badly, with vulgar language. We just need to accept others are different.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lᴜᴋᴇ Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 I agree. Myself and biggles, we are truly sorry I really hope stuff like this doesnt happen again. Sorry everyone, and I mean everyone. I really let everyone down there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
One Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 Preventing an argument is difficult, considering peoples opinions are different. The best way to prevent them are to show levels of maturity and respect. I'm sure most members I know are capable of this. If a new member come on trying to start a fight, ignore it and move on. If you do happen to get into an argument, like Mayh3m said, forgive and forget. Like I said, I'm sure most members I know are capable of this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vitamin Pwn Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 yes i agree with this 100%, please please please don't argue in shout like, Mayh3m said Shoutbox is the heart of the forums and if you do get in an argument please be the bigger person and just walk away from it, don't keep it going. and remember "To err is human, to forgive divine." -Alexander Pope 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FIREN4 Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 I agree with and support you and this thread. I have seen plenty of arguments, I ironically haven't been in one though, and I hope TO never be in one. What'll I do about? I'm not a moderator, so what am I gonna do? I'll report them to a Moderator. And get on with my life, simple. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZB-85 Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 I totally agree. Arguments do need to stop happening, though people will still bicker. We have to learn to stop arguments and not start them. This is a great thread, hopefully this will teach people to stop arguing over the stupidest things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lolmenade Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 Here's another thing you can add about people arguing and taking things seriously: It's the internet. Who cares about what some random person says about you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Drizzy_Dan Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 I totally agree. Arguments do need to stop happening, though people will still bicker. We have to learn to stop arguments and not start them. This is a great thread, hopefully this will teach people to stop arguing over the stupidest things. I think ZB argues too much... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZB-85 Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 Say What... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Drizzy_Dan Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 Just kidding ZB you know you're my boy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZB-85 Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 Oh ... wow. Well I feel really dumb now 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Absolute Dog Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 Mayhem, even though I am on a lot, I am very busy. I promise you and all members the ban hammer is about to swing. I have been nice, talked to members and accepted their apologies. This is an open warning, heed it. If I ban you from the shout box it will be a one week minimum. I will be reviewing the archives again regularly. If you have been on this site long enough to know, this is your warning. Some members can not accept polite and courteous words. No argument from a member will get you back, trust me. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZB-85 Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 Yes sir mister Moderator Sir! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Absolute Dog Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 Yes sir mister Moderator Sir! It is not "Sir", It is "I understand". You want me back, I am back. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZB-85 Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 Sorry AD. I understand Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azaxx Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 i understand Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spectral Jester Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 Mayh3m, this is post of the year! Never has a truer post been made, maybe as AD says its time we clamped down more in the shout box, or even removed the shout box? As it seems some members are using it for nothing bit abuse 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
One Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 Mayh3m, this is post of the year! Never has a truer post been made, maybe as AD says its time we clamped down more in the shout box, or even removed the shout box? As it seems some members are using it for nothing bit abuse I think removing the chatbox wouldn't benefit the site at all.Heck, you'd probably lose a few members. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr Biggles Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 As luke said, we are truly sorry, things got out of hand and it should never of happened. Good interiesting post also Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ShockGazm Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 Be mature and respect eachother, not really asking much is it? Correct me if I'm wrong, which I'm not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spectral Jester Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 One, the shout box would never be removed, it was emphasising a point. Biggles, it happens its forgot about, today is a brand new day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lᴜᴋᴇ Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 One, the shout box would never be removed, it was emphasising a point. Biggles, it happens its forgot about, today is a brand new day. Glad to hear it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Father B Posted March 18, 2012 Report Share Posted March 18, 2012 I love it, Mayhem. Excellent point. Excellent advice. If I may, I would just like to add a few points of advice of my own. They should be common sense to most of us, but here they are anyway: 1. Stay out of it. To members who are not part of such arguments and disrespect, if you happen to see one in progress please refrain from taking sides or joining in with your own opinions. No matter if one of the members involved is a friend of yours or not, or if you happen to agree with one side of the argument or the other, the best thing you can do is stay out of it. 2. Clear the Shoutbox. When an argument breaks out in the Shoutbox it would help our mods by lessening the time it takes from them, and alleviating the stress that they may endure, if we outright stop our conversations in the Shoutbox. It would make identifying the situation and the individuals involved much easier, and allow for swift disciplinary action should any need be taken. 3. Flag a mod. Our community has grown quite a bit in the last year (that's right, we're gonna be 1-year-old soon!), and our moderators have their work cut out for them without having to worry about the Shoutbox. They don't always catch incriminating behaviour in the Shoutbox right away, and may need some help from we who care. A gentle PM about the issue may go a long way to securing the integrity of our community. Thanks in advance for your community excellence, my children, and blessings of Twam upon each of you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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